How to Avoid Family Drama and Have Your Micro Wedding - Our Guide
Let’s be real – weddings are amazing, but family drama? Not so much. If the thought of seating arrangements that rival political summits, opinionated aunties, or a guest list longer than your last grocery receipt gives you hives, it might be time to consider eloping or having a micro wedding.
At The Micro Wedding Company, we’re all about helping couples skip the stress and create a day that’s actually about THEM (imagine that!). So, here’s our cheeky, foolproof guide to dodging the drama and saying “I do” YOUR way.
1. Recognise the Red Flags of a Big Wedding
If your wedding planning has already led to:
Debates about whether to invite your cousin’s plus-one’s pet chihuahua
Family members acting like it’s all about them and their wishes for your day
A budget spiralling faster than a toddler on a sugar high
…it’s time to rethink things. A micro wedding or an elopement could be the answer to keeping your sanity intact.
2. Set Boundaries (and Stick to Them!)
The moment you announce your engagement, expect unsolicited advice faster than you can say "wedding hashtag." Your best bet? Lay down the law early.
Tell your nearest and dearest: “We’re keeping it intimate because we want a meaningful, stress-free celebration.” Translation: No, you can’t invite your book club.
3. Pick a Dreamy (Yet Easily Defensible) Location
Want to avoid a 120-person guest list? Choose a venue that physically can’t fit them all. A stunning cliffside elopement? A charming backyard soirée? A secret garden with only 20 seats? Perfect. The venue’s “restrictions” become your best excuse to avoid that difficult conversation.
4. Streamline the Guest List Like a Boss
A micro wedding isn’t about cutting people out—it’s about keeping the right people in. Stick to VIPs only: the ones who truly make your life better, not the ones who guilt-trip you over Christmas cards. If it helps, blame “venue restrictions” (see #3).
5. Keep It Under Wraps
If you know certain family members will try to talk you out of it, consider keeping your plans low-key until everything’s booked and non-refundable. By the time they hear about it, you’ll already be sipping champagne with your soulmate. Alternatively, avoid the difficult convo prior and don’t announce it until after the day - better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission we say.
6. Make It an Experience, Not a Performance
Big weddings often turn into productions with costume changes, schedules tighter than a Netflix crime drama, and forced small talk with long-lost relatives.
A micro wedding or elopement strips all that back.
Focus on what you love: an incredible meal, a jaw-dropping location, vows that actually mean something and the people you love the most in this world right beside you.
7. Hire Vendors Who Get It
You want vendors who love micro weddings as much as you do—people who’ll make sure your day is stunning, stress-free, and totally you. At The Micro Wedding Company, we specialise in making small weddings feel BIG on love, style, and personality. So, yeah (shameless plug), we understand intimate weddings, what makes them great and work closely alongside you to bring it all together in a stress free way…
8. Celebrate However the Heck You Want
Just because you’re skipping the 200-person circus doesn’t mean you have to skip the fun. Host a celebratory dinner later, throw a backyard bash, or send out cheeky “We Did the Thing!” announcements with your epic wedding photos.
Ready to Make It Happen?
If a micro wedding or elopement sounds like your jam, The Micro Wedding Company is here to help you pull off the perfect stress-free, love-filled celebration. Let’s chat and start planning your dream wedding — drama not included!